With all the press about Mitt having perhaps bullied someone in high school, I started thinking about my own high school years.  I was a “group bully”.  Of course, we never thought of ourselves as bullies….bullies were guys who would beat up on weaker guys not a group of girls terrorizing other girls. We never hit anyone but I’m pretty sure we “bumped” into some girls pretty hard.  And what was their crime?  One girl liked someone that one of our group liked, a couple of girls had the audacity to be smart, some girls were shy, some were more boyish than us or heavier, or whatever.  If you were different, you would be a target.

The really rotten thing was that I liked most of the girls I was mean to.  One on one, I was nice.  But get me into that “hen pecking” group and I just as bad as the rest of them.  I think fear of becoming a victim instead of a instigator drove many of us to follow our fearless leader.  She had a way about her that you knew if you crossed her, you would be next in the pecking order.  We didn’t stop at girls, either.  We were the bane of many a teacher and quite a few of our male classmates.   I would guess there are quite a few people that would tell you we made their high school years very unhappy.

I would like to publicly apologize to each and every person who I was ever mean to.  I wish I could sit down, face to face, with them and tell them how truly sorry I am for making their lives so awful.   I wish I had had the courage to stop us.  But I was a coward.  And I will always be disappointed in myself that I was.   If anyone who is reading this was hurt by me, please contact me so I can tell you personally how sorry I am.  And if you were a victim of a bully, I would hope that the person who was mean to you has grown up and become a more decent person and may be wishing that they could find you to tell you how sorry they are.  I think it would be good for both parties if the victims were to write to the bully and tell them how it felt.  If nothing else, at least the victims would get a chance to unload that burden on the person who caused it.  Even if it has to be done anonymously.  The bullies need to know the damage that they did even if it was 40 years ago.  

My heart goes out to all the kids who are being bullied in today’s society.  I can not imagine how awful that must be.  I wish I had the answer to the problem.  I wish I had never been the problem. 


About thelumberjackandthegypsy

The lumberjack is my husband and he owns Arrowhead Wood Products; Arrowhead Toboggan and Snowshoe; and Lake Superior Furniture Co. and is the exclusive manufacturer of wood shutters for Summit Hill Shutter Co. The gypsy is me, and I have a passion for teaching people to tap into their creative side, even when they think they don't have one! I did not grow up creative or artsy and I was in my thirties before I started sewing and creating things. I am a rug hooker; artisan teddy bear maker; painter (from pictures to large pieces of furniture!); knitter; doll maker; needle-felter, repurposer; sewer; decorator; blogger; glamper; reader; vintage jewelry maker; junker; and now a shop owner. But the lumberjack and I feel our greatest gifts in this world are our four grandkids and our daughter and her husband and our relationship with Jesus Christ. We have been married for more than 33 years and most of that time we have lived out in the country on a hobby farm where we have raised chickens, turkeys, ducks, goats, pigs and beef cattle. We also homeschooled our only child for her entire school years. We lived out our dream of being like the The Little House on the Prairie and they were great times. I also have a personal blog: rantingsofamadqueen.wordpress.com where I tell stories of what life on the farm has been like and other things that pop up in my very weird mind. I prefer "quirky or eccentric" instead of weird (sounds more fascinating and less creepy)!

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  1. Does this mean you are sorry for pushing me off the porch on to that rose bush and I had to get stitches in my ass??? Just saying……. haha love ya Sis!!!

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