I am curious. How influenced are you by the opinions of others?
I just had a conversation with someone who was so excited to get a new hair~do but when she showed the photo of this new do, family members told her, “it isn’t you”. So now she is second-guessing herself on her choice. And it breaks my heart.
If you know me at all, you know I rarely ever ask for the opinion of others when it comes to doing something that I perceive to be “my domain”. It’s not that I feel I know more than others, but I do feel that when it comes to something I have to live with, my desire outweighs what anyone else has to say. In some cases, even my dear husband gets no say in my decision. (But I have a pretty special husband who allows me certain freedoms in our marriage because he understands that I am “unusual” and to try to make me more normal makes us both miserable….cause if “Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody gonna be happy”!)
If you are a pretty normal person and are truly happy just that way, then I stand and applaud you! My tears are for the folks who are living someone else’s version of themselves. I think there would be few things sadder than to be at death’s door and to think, “Dang, I wish I would have had the courage to dye my hair, get a tattoo, get a piercing, try acting or singing, taken that trip alone, or any of a thousand small or large things.
I’m afraid we always assume we will have the time to do the things we are putting off. (Insert WARNING ALERT sound here). I hate to be the one to break it to ya, but we are all walking time bombs. There is no time but the present to act on your desires. But I am getting a bit off my topic….
How many of you cannot make a single purchase without getting someone else’s opinion? How many opinions do you need before adding them all up and going with the majority? And what if what the majority wants, isn’t your first, second, or even third choice. Do you abandon your desire because you are afraid to trust your own instincts? I believe most folks lose their confidence in their own choices way back in grade school. The first time you color that tree purple and the teacher says it is supposed to be green (I do hope that over the years more and more teachers have allowed purple trees and green dogs, etc) or when you dress yourself and your mom asks you, “You’re not really going to wear THAT, are you?”
If I had a supernatural gift, I would love for it to be the ability to give everyone the gift of self-confidence. To impart the freedom that comes with having the confidence to swim against the current. To dance to the beat of their own drums. To sing with the notes of their spirit even if those notes are not listed in the music scales! To have the courage to paint those trees purple and to delight in what they have made and not care one whit what anyone else says about their abilities.
Do you ever allow yourself the right to be yourself? To fly when everyone else is walking? I sure hope so even if it is just a few inches off the ground, it is a start!
So to my friend, if you are reading this, go for the hairstyle and the colors that make your heart sing and your family might just say, “Wow, I like it”! And you will just smile because you really didn’t give a rat’s a$$ if they did or not!!!!
I would love to hear about a time where you bucked convention and just went with what your own heart desired. Or a time when you didn’t and now wish you would have!
Much love from the Queen who is DVRing the Super Bowl so I can skip the football and just watch the fun stuff!